One dad figuring life out, out loud — fatherhood, work, productivity, investing for my family, and the occasional big question that will not let go. Simply explained, drawn in crayon, always built on real, named research.https://norboexplains.com/enhttps://norboexplains.com/videos/i-became-a-dad-and-felt-lost/https://norboexplains.com/videos/i-became-a-dad-and-felt-lost/The day my son was born I dropped to my knees crying. Three weeks later I stood in my kitchen at 3am holding him and felt lost, empty — and I told no one. This is what actually happens to a new father's body and mind, and the science that finally explained it to me.Thu, 20 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/does-testosterone-drop-when-you-become-a-father/https://norboexplains.com/blog/does-testosterone-drop-when-you-become-a-father/Yes — and in the biggest study, evening levels fell by about a third. Here's the real data on what fatherhood does to a man's hormones, and why evolution built it that way.Wed, 19 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/how-long-does-it-take-for-a-dad-to-bond-with-baby/https://norboexplains.com/blog/how-long-does-it-take-for-a-dad-to-bond-with-baby/Weeks to months for many fathers — and the trigger isn't the birth, it's contact. What the research says about the father-baby bond, and how to speed it up.Wed, 19 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/how-to-actually-support-your-partner-after-the-baby/https://norboexplains.com/blog/how-to-actually-support-your-partner-after-the-baby/What I learned taking care of my wife in the newborn months — and the research on why a father's support measurably changes a mother's recovery.Wed, 19 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/things-nobody-tells-new-dads/https://norboexplains.com/blog/things-nobody-tells-new-dads/The bond isn't instant, your hormones change, and one in ten of us struggle in silence. The honest new-dad list I wish someone had handed me.Wed, 19 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/when-does-depression-hit-new-dads/https://norboexplains.com/blog/when-does-depression-hit-new-dads/One major analysis found paternal depression peaking between months 3 and 6 — right when the visitors stop coming. The timeline, the debate, and the warning signs.Wed, 19 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/feeling-useless-the-third-wheel-weeks/https://norboexplains.com/blog/feeling-useless-the-third-wheel-weeks/The baby wants only your partner, and you're standing there holding a burp cloth. What research says about sidelined fathers — and the job that's actually yours.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/mourning-your-old-life-doesnt-make-you-a-bad-dad/https://norboexplains.com/blog/mourning-your-old-life-doesnt-make-you-a-bad-dad/Grieving your freedom, your identity, even your old marriage after a baby arrives is documented, normal, and survivable. On demolition and rebuilding.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/one-in-ten-new-dads-the-numbers-nobody-mentions/https://norboexplains.com/blog/one-in-ten-new-dads-the-numbers-nobody-mentions/Paternal perinatal depression is real, measurable, and mostly invisible. What the meta-analyses actually say, including the parts that are still debated.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/the-dad-brain-is-real/https://norboexplains.com/blog/the-dad-brain-is-real/Brain scans of first-time fathers on two continents show measurable changes after the baby arrives. What shrinks, what grows, and what it might mean.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/the-day-i-became-a-father-the-bond-came-later/https://norboexplains.com/blog/the-day-i-became-a-father-the-bond-came-later/I cried at the first photo of my son, then felt the floor open. The science says a father's bond is built by contact, not issued at birth.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/the-loud-stranger-when-the-bond-takes-months/https://norboexplains.com/blog/the-loud-stranger-when-the-bond-takes-months/You expect instant magic. Sometimes you get a screaming lodger you've never met. Why the father-baby bond takes months, and why that's not a defect.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/the-pressure-to-be-the-rock/https://norboexplains.com/blog/the-pressure-to-be-the-rock/Be strong, provide, don't complain: the unwritten job description of a new father. What the research says the 'rock' strategy gives — and takes.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/what-actually-helps-new-dads-according-to-research/https://norboexplains.com/blog/what-actually-helps-new-dads-according-to-research/Paternity leave, skin-to-skin, owning one baby task, one outside connection: what research really supports for struggling new fathers, and what's just plausible advice.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/what-broken-sleep-does-to-a-new-dad/https://norboexplains.com/blog/what-broken-sleep-does-to-a-new-dad/Parents' sleep doesn't recover for up to six years — and by objective measures, new dads are sleepier than anyone admits. The science of running on fumes.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/why-mens-struggle-looks-like-anger-not-tears/https://norboexplains.com/blog/why-mens-struggle-looks-like-anger-not-tears/Male depression often wears a disguise — irritability, overwork, withdrawal — and the standard screening tools were built for mothers. The science of the missed men.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/your-body-knows-you-are-a-dad-before-you-do/https://norboexplains.com/blog/your-body-knows-you-are-a-dad-before-you-do/New fathers' testosterone drops by up to a third, and the more hands-on the dad, the bigger the drop. The strange biology of becoming a father.Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/welcome-to-norbo-explains/https://norboexplains.com/blog/welcome-to-norbo-explains/What this website is, why the channel draws everything badly on purpose, and what you'll find here every week.Mon, 17 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/videos/blue-zones-what-i-actually-found/https://norboexplains.com/videos/blue-zones-what-i-actually-found/The Blue Zones are five places on Earth where reaching 100 is not unusual. So I tried to move to one. By the end I had crossed off all five.Sun, 09 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/blue-zones-what-i-actually-found/https://norboexplains.com/blog/blue-zones-what-i-actually-found/I tried to pick one of the five Blue Zones to move to. The ages held up, the famous diet didn't, and the real secret turned out to be a hill.Sun, 09 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/videos/the-milgram-experiment-would-you-shock-a-stranger/https://norboexplains.com/videos/the-milgram-experiment-would-you-shock-a-stranger/The scientist in the grey lab coat had exactly four scripted lines. Only the fourth was a real order: you have no other choice, you must go on. And every single time he reached it, the person in the chair stopped. Not one kept going.Wed, 05 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/the-milgram-experiment-would-you-shock-a-stranger/https://norboexplains.com/blog/the-milgram-experiment-would-you-shock-a-stranger/The famous 65% came from one version out of more than twenty, and the only direct order made people stop. What the shock experiment really showed.Wed, 05 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/videos/the-neanderthal-who-collected-seashells/https://norboexplains.com/videos/the-neanderthal-who-collected-seashells/You have kept something useless because it was beautiful. A shell, a pebble, a feather you will never use. Seventy thousand years ago a Neanderthal did exactly the same thing, and carried it home to a cave.Sun, 02 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/the-neanderthal-who-collected-seashells/https://norboexplains.com/blog/the-neanderthal-who-collected-seashells/A Neanderthal kept a small shell for no practical reason. Ages later, a human in the same cave did the same thing. Here's why that tiny habit matters.Sun, 02 Aug 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/videos/your-ancestors-ate-100-percent-organic/https://norboexplains.com/videos/your-ancestors-ate-100-percent-organic/Every human who ever lived, for three hundred thousand years, ate one hundred percent organic. Wild, free-range, no pesticides, no preservatives. The purest diet in the history of our species. The life expectancy that came with it was about thirty.Wed, 29 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/your-ancestors-ate-100-percent-organic/https://norboexplains.com/blog/your-ancestors-ate-100-percent-organic/Our ancestors ate the most natural diet possible for 300,000 years and still lived far shorter lives than us. The reason we don't is not the food.Wed, 29 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/videos/why-do-you-get-goosebumps/https://norboexplains.com/videos/why-do-you-get-goosebumps/For a hundred and fifty years, science had an answer for goosebumps: a useless leftover from when we had fur. Darwin said it in 1872, the textbooks copied it, and nobody looked again. In 2020, a Harvard lab looked again.Sun, 26 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/why-do-you-get-goosebumps/https://norboexplains.com/blog/why-do-you-get-goosebumps/Cold, fear, and a good song all set off the same tiny bumps. What goosebumps are really for — and the 2020 finding that rewrote the story.Sun, 26 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/videos/why-cant-you-remember-being-a-baby/https://norboexplains.com/videos/why-cant-you-remember-being-a-baby/Why can't you remember being a baby? You learned to walk, to talk, to recognize the faces you loved most - and then the whole thing vanished. Most of us cannot recall a single real moment from before age three. For over a hundred years, science had a tidy answer: a baby's brain was simply too undeveWed, 22 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/why-cant-you-remember-being-a-baby/https://norboexplains.com/blog/why-cant-you-remember-being-a-baby/A 2025 Yale scan showed babies do form memories. So where do your first years go? The strange science of infantile amnesia, in plain words.Wed, 22 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/videos/universe-25-the-calhoun-experiment/https://norboexplains.com/videos/universe-25-the-calhoun-experiment/Universe 25 was a perfect world built for mice - unlimited food, no predators, no disease, endless cozy nests - and the colony still collapsed to zero. But almost everything the internet tells you about why is wrong.Sun, 19 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/universe-25-the-calhoun-experiment/https://norboexplains.com/blog/universe-25-the-calhoun-experiment/The famous mouse paradise didn't collapse from overcrowding. Here's what really ran out, and what John Calhoun actually believed about humans.Sun, 19 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/videos/how-ancient-humans-survived-the-night/https://norboexplains.com/videos/how-ancient-humans-survived-the-night/How did ancient humans survive the night? For more than two million years, sunset did not mean bedtime - it meant the world turned against you. No walls, no light switch, no safety. Just a slow, soft, half-blind ape in the dark, surrounded by things that could see it perfectly.Wed, 15 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/how-ancient-humans-survived-the-night/https://norboexplains.com/blog/how-ancient-humans-survived-the-night/Fire, fear, and sleep that never fully switched off — the quiet tricks that carried our ancestors through two million years of darkness.Wed, 15 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/videos/the-doorway-effect/https://norboexplains.com/videos/the-doorway-effect/You walk into a room and the thought is just gone. Why did you come in here? Relax: it is not your age, and your memory is not failing. It is called the doorway effect - and it is one of the best-studied glitches in psychology.Sun, 12 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/the-doorway-effect/https://norboexplains.com/blog/the-doorway-effect/You march into the kitchen on a mission and the mission vanishes. Here's the real science of the doorway effect, and why your memory is fine.Sun, 12 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/videos/were-ancient-humans-smarter/https://norboexplains.com/videos/were-ancient-humans-smarter/Were ancient humans smarter than us? I went in certain the answer was no. The grunting caveman dragging a club is one of the most famous pictures in the world - and it is almost completely made up.Thu, 09 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMThttps://norboexplains.com/blog/were-ancient-humans-smarter/https://norboexplains.com/blog/were-ancient-humans-smarter/Same brain, different tools. What stone blades, ocean crossings, and 10,000-year-old memories say about the minds we came from.Thu, 09 Jul 2026 00:00:00 GMT